No one likes to think of themselves as judgmental, but our brains love to judge.
Let’s look at some of the ways you might be judgmental…
- She’s wearing too much make-up.
- I’m the only one that does any work around here.
- I don’t know what that person does all day.
- How did he get that position?
You think you’re simply observing the world around you. You’re making observations. Many of us don’t realize we have an option not to make these observations. We’re simply just reporting the news.
It’s our brains natural flow to see something and make up a story about it – it’s our primitive brain trying make sure we’re safe. But just like those grooves woven in your brain that make you not think one minute about how to brush your teeth or tie your shoes, so deep are the grooves that make you judgmental.
It’s a habit and it’s not reserved just for people outside of you. You’re included too. You are also judging yourself.
Have you ever said…
- My hair looks awful.
- I sounded awful on the video conference.
- Why did I do that?
- How did you forget to do that?
- You suck!
You judge your own thoughts, your feelings, your actions. And, since most of our thoughts are negative, your habit of judging yourself is most likely always negative. We’re very good at shaming ourselves. After a while we start believing ourselves.
Pull the thread of this thought…
You can kick this habit to the curb.
Become an observer of your thoughts. Notice every time you’re judgmental about someone.
Notice every time you think you or somebody else is “wrong” about something, or you know a “better” way.
Note every time somebody does something that makes you cringe.
Every time you think somebody, including yourself, should be a different way, you’re being judgmental.
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